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Based on the reading by Michael Lipson, here is my reflection;
The full breath has two complementary processes: inhalation and exhalation. No inhalation is possible without exhalation and no exhalation is possible without inhalation. Inhalation is like holding and exhalation is like releasing. If I want to understand another person's perspective, I need to really listen to the other person's voice and letting go of my voice. Otherwise two voices collide creating discord in our relationships. Sadly this way of communication results in relationship breakups. Relationship is not a one way street. Conflicts arise and result in deadly wars and many innocent people get killed. In counseling sessions I often see such patterns of communication in couples resulting "I am right and you are wrong". When they learn how to listen to each other in a reciprocal way, relationships get better. They acquire the skill of creating a wholesome balance between holding and releasing. What helps me create such a balance is by being fully present and quietly listen empathically to what the other person is saying. Such communications clears up clouds of misunderstanding and creating a bridge of wholesome relationships. Namaste.
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Debbie Podwika
12/16/2023 11:28:01 am
I have to admit, I had to read Mr Lipson's piece twice. I think I understand it? So I'll give an example to see if I do. When I moved a year ago I had a plan, some big goals or expectations that I held in my head and in my heart. A great deal of my plan has not turned out within this year. My back went out two times which took 6 weeks to heal each time, I've now been sick five times, well one was an allergic reaction apparently, and my dad was hospitalized three times with a bit of extended stay. All these things have taken up much of my year's time. What I didn't do at the beginning, which I think I was supposed to do but I'm learning to do now at the end of the year, is to release it. I had these plans and as you know a great way to make God laugh is to tell him your plans right haha. So we make plans but then we need to release them and say, while they are plans it's still okay if it doesn't go as we had planned and perhaps the things that happened that weren't in our plans, may have been something we really needed more, some important lesson that will strengthen us for the future. Leave a Reply. |
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