Humility is a virtue that elevates our consciousness. Arrogance is a vice that diminishes our consciousness. Humility lifts up. Arrogance brings us down. Arrogant people not only tweet about themselves but also use insulting words about those who are humble. Humble people speak in a non-judgemental and kind way. What can I do for you is the voice of a humble person. What do I get from you is the voice of an arrogant and conceited person. A humble person talks less about his accomplishments while an arrogant person brags about his
accomplishments.

In chapter 13 of the Bhagavad Gita twenty characteristics are described to evolve on a higher level of consciousness. Out of the twenty characteristics three characteristics, evolutes, are mentioned in the first two verses ( veres 7 and verse 8). They are amanitvam- absence of vanity or pride, adambhitvamabsence of hypocrisy, and anahamkara-absence of egoism.

James (4:100) says in the Bible,” Humble yourself before the Lord, and he will lift you up.”

Zen Story : Your Cup of Tea Is Overflowing.
A scholar went to a Zen master to learn how to be enlightened. The Zen master welcomed him and made tea for him. He poured the tea from the kettle into the empty cup of the visitor. He kept on pouring and it started overflowing. The visitor asked the Zen master why he kept on pouring the tea into the cup that was already full. The Zen master told the visitor that his mind was flooded with too much bookish knowledge. He needs to learn how to be still and humble and keep his mind open and free to learn wisdom.

Nine Steps To Practice Humility by Mother Theresa

1. Speak as little as possible about yourself to avoid bragging or blowing your own trumpet.
2. Mind your own business rather than poking into others’ business.
3. Avoid curiosity to find faults or shortcomings of others.
4. Accept contradictions and corrections to learn about yourself. Nobody is perfect.
5. Accept insults and injuries.
6. Accept being forgotten and disliked.
7. Be kind and gentle even under provocations.
8. Choose what is hardest to do to be stronger.
9. Don’t dwell on faults or limitations of others.

Watch the short videos that convey the power of humility. These stories are available on YouTube.

1. ​The Buddha And The Half Pomegranate  (3:49 mins)
2. Jesus Shows Humility  (2:30 mins)
3. Mother Teresa And The Shopkeeper  (2:40 mins)

An excerpt from Bryan Stevenson's book "On Being" is published in Awakin.org. Below are my reflections to the article:

We as human beings are imperfect and we all have gone through trying and hard times. Life is not always a bed of roses. It has also sharp thorns. It hurts. There have been times when my heart has been broken. My dreams were shattered. I have learned the value of wholeness from my brokenness. Heart breaks have taught me how to heal my wounds, recover myself, and lift myself up from the falls. Suffering is human. How do we face it and what do we learn from it is up to us.

I have gone through many difficult situations and have learned lessons from them. There were times when I felt heavy weight of emotional pain. Where there was a little light and I did not know how to walk on the the dark lanes of my life. Being with people who have endured hard times in their lives and their empathic understanding, support and kindness helped me emerge from the blinding darkness. Going through difficult times in my life made me understand my own suffering and suffering of others. The words of John Lewis are very inspiring: " My head is blooded but not bowed."

Knowing that there is no certainty in life and accepting it and doing the best I can has been very helpful to me. Reading the stories of people who have gone through hard times in their lives and how they uplifted themselves also have been very helpful to me. Daily practice of Meditation has always helped me remain grounded and calm. Accepting the reality of life, having faith in the the higher power, and placing myself in the Divine hands has been my way of going through the ups and downs in life.
Namaste!

All of us want to form good habits in different areas of our life: physical, mental, emotional, relational, and spiritual areas of our life. Habits are learned behaviors. We can cultivate good habits as well as bad habits. We can learn new and good habits and get rid of harmful habits. How can we accomplish this worthy goal?

There are four steps we can take to form good habits: Cue, Craving, Response, and Reward. Let us take one unwholesome habit that you really want to break.  You go to the kitchen and you see a bag of potato chips. You are not hungry and you know that eating potato chips is not good for your health. But seeing the potato chips (Cue) you feel a strong urge (Craving) for the chips and
automatically or habitually you grab (Response) a handful chips to satisfy(Reward) your craving. You get an instant short- term reward- pleasure of eating the chips. And you pay the price for succumbing to the harmful craving. If you do not take the right steps in time, you will be enslaved by these harmful habits.

So, what do you do? Cue: Make the bag of chips invisible- out of sight, out of mind or get rid of it. Another example. You want to break the habit of overusing your mobile phone because it becomes a distraction every now and then when it buzzes. Keep the phone away from you or out of your reach. When you take this step consistently, you are breaking this wrong habit. Now you are in control of your craving. You are not yielding to it. This is your wise decision, the right
choice. With practice you form a good helpful habit.

Cue is a stimulus that triggers craving. Craving is in the mind. You use mindfulness practice to relate to the cue and let it go without getting attached to it and bound by it. Mindfulness practice provides insight for the problem and helps us change our mindset. We learn how to respond to the cue or the stimulus wisely. This is another step for changing the harmful habit and forming the wholesome habit. When we take the right step we feel good and happy. That is
the Reward. It reinforces the cultivation of good habits.

There is another model for changing our habitual patterns. It is described in the ancient spiritual book the Bhagavad Gita. It is a dialogue between Arjuna, the disciple, shishya, and Sri Krishna the Spiritual teacher, Guru. Arjun asks an important question to Krishna. He said, “ I Know I should not be carried away (response) by the pull of the senses that may lead me on the wrong path and I do not want to do that. What is the force in me that takes me on the harmful or sinful path even against my will?” Shri Krishna tells Arjuna that it is your selfish passion
Kama or desire that takes you away from the right path. That is the enemy , the insatiable fire in the form of desire...Therefore, control your senses in the beginning and slay this sinful destroyer of knowledge and Self-realization.” 

Desire has three houses: senses, mind and intellect. Desire’s favorite house is five senses. Kama or lust is very powerful. Desire for power, pleasure, prestige, and possessions are also very strong. It is the lust for power that in our modern age is much responsible for destruction and misery. We need to recognize when the desire arises and we need to nip it in the bud before it grows bigger and stronger.

Desire’s second house is the mind where it lives. We need to remain awake and aware when the desire arises in our mind. Mindfulness, Meditation and Prayer are very helpful in regulating our harmful desires. 

Kama’s third house is intellect. Intellect is our mental faculty that discerns between right and wrong and helps the mind in making right choices. What desires and thoughts we entertain in our mind is very crucial. As the Gita says, the mind causes bondage or freedom. So how we use our mind is very important. Kathopanishad, the ancient book of spiritual wisdom, offers a holistic model to understand the power of senses and how to to regulate them.

The body is the chariot, the Self as the master of the chariot, the intellect as the charioteer, and the mind as the reins. The senses are the five horses and the paths are sense objects. The person which is united with the body, senses and mind is the enjoyer. One who lacks understanding and has undisciplined mind, has uncontrolled senses which are unmanageable like the vicious horses of a charioteer. But one who possesses the right understanding and has a disciplined mind has senses under control like the good horses of a charioteer.

Excerpt from John J. Prendergast's book: Relaxed Groundedness is posted here. Below is my reflection to the article:

Who am I? What is reality? Is everything changing? Is there something unchanging? Am I born with it? How do I know? I have been exploring these kinds of questions for quite some time. When my mind is silent I have a clear felt sense of open awareness. My mind is clear. my heart is open. I rest in the deepest ground which John J. Prendergast calls our home ground or groundless ground.

There is a continuum of groundedness. The author lists four broad experiential stages of groundedness:
(a) no ground: I am not in the body.
(b) foreground: I am in the body.
(c) background: my body is me (as open awareness).
(d) homeground: Everything is my body.

When I meditate I go through these stages of natural awareness.
(a) I realize that I have a body but I- the soul-am not the body.
(b) My soul is in the body.
(c) When I become aware of the boundless nature of the soul I realize that my body is contained in the container of natural awareness.
(d) The disconnect between different parts of my self goes away. I am in the homeground. I have difficulty in understanding what the author means by saying " Everything is my body."

Natural awareness without inner obstructions helps me grow in my senses of groundedness. when I practice Mindfulness Meditation, my mind becomes attentive and does not get carried away by wandering thoughts, feelings, and desires. Meditation opens up doors to be connected with what is happening in the present moment. Meditative experience is not bound by time and space.
Namaste!

Rachel Naomi Remen is a best-author of many books. Excerpt from her book, My Grandfather's Blessings is posted in the Awakin.org website. Below is my reflection to the wonderful article.

This story narrated by the grand daughter is very timely as we are approaching the gift-giving Christmas time. The conventional way of buying gifts is so terribly time consuming and people feel confused and inadequate about what to give. The spiritual approach for gift-giving is very simple. We do it as a service to God without getting anything in return. My experience of gift-giving is simple and uncomplicated like the experience of the granddaughter Neshume-le. I can easily relate to what the grandfather told his granddaughter, it is not the water the seeds need to grow but" All it needs is your faithfulness." Faith is the foundation of all relationships and of all spiritual practices.

Blessing life is the most effective way of creating and nurturing life in all forms-human and natural. There are times when relationships thin out or break up. Giving unconditional love from the heart based on the foundation of faith repairs and heals our fragile relationships. Several years ago I had an agonizing and depressive experience in my life. It was a heart-breaking experience. It took time for me to recover from it. My deep faith in the goodness of heart helped me emerge from the hurting heart to the healing heart. It was a transforming experience for me.

The best teacher is within ourselves. What we need is calmness, patience, empathy, compassion and above all faithfulness. Life offers many opportunities for working on ourselves to repair and heal our relationships. It is a daily metta, loving kindness practice that heals me and others. It is blessing from the heart.

May we relate to us and others with the loving light of faith and kindness!
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Namaste!

Upeksha means equanimity. To remain still, unwavering, centered and rooted in the midst of small or big changes taking place in our life. Upeksha is also considered a vihara out of four viharas. They are Loving Kindness, Compassion, Peaceful Joy and Equanimity. We can use one word for Equanimity- Even Mindedness .

We all know how difficult it is to remain centered and rooted when all of a sudden a season of life changes. How can we remain steady and solid in the midst of life’s seasonal changes. How can we remain rooted like a mountain facing dark clouds and bright clouds, rain and snow. The Bhagavad Gita uses the word Sthitaprajna. A sthitaprajna is a person who is well established in wisdom.

Rumi describes equanimity poetically in his poem The Guest House. We will read it at
the end of our experiential equanimity session.

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 Ilie Cioara has written an interesting article here and here is my reflection to it:

We all have a deep longing for Happiness. It is the Sacred within us. It is an egoless Presence with no time and space boundaries. It is Universal. It is Within us. It is Divinity within us. It is Pure Consciousness. It is Holy.

I feel the presence of Happiness when my thinking mind is quiet. I feel the presence of Happiness when I let go of searching for Happiness. It is always within us like pure love, clear light, complete silence. I experience such Happiness when I am fully present with myself or with others; when I am fully absorbed in what I am doing. These are the times when I in the Flow of Happiness.

Daily practice of Mindfulness Meditation, serving others selflessly, loving others kindly and unconditionally helps me. I am not against thinking mind. I need to think to solve the problems when I encounter them. I use my mind to make wise choices. I am thinking when I am responding to these questions. I am happy to reflect on this wonderful reading close to my heart.
Namaste!