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Mark Mason's article from Transaction To Trust made me think deeply. Conditional relationships are transactional relationships. They are bargaining relationships. They are deal making relationships. Such relationships are normal in the material or worldly world. We may have the same kind of conditional mindset in our personal and interpersonal relationships. Such mindset is based on the following equation: If only when you do this thing for me or if only when I get this then I will be with you. We all know that such a mindset may bring achievement or gratification for a while. Loving relationships are not founded on if when and then equation. They are unconditional. The foundation of such relationships is unshakable trust or faith.Without faith there is no true and enduring love.
I was blessed to have people in my life who mostly related to me unconditionally. The early childhood experiences of unconditional love have built a solid foundation for my personality development. It is my belief based on my experiences that the vibrations of un-conditionality bring non-transactional people together- the law of attraction! As Mark Mason says, "It is difficult to act unconditionally." Yes. It is not that easy. It requires a shift from transactional mind to trusting heart. According to the wisdom tradition it requires sadhana-daily mindfulness practice. Trusting others begins with trusting oneself, cultivating faith in oneself- making a gradual shift with awareness. Namaste!
4 Comments
7/10/2020 10:31:53 am
Trust /Love it is together. If you love someone you trust . I am very lucky from my childhood I received unconditional love. I regrets one time I did conditional love with my husband, it was Massage. we both agreed one week he does to me following week I do to him. For few months it went very well. Suddenly he start giving me excused I am tired today you do to me. For few weeks I was doing to him. Before we know we stop doing. After that I stop doing condition with him. I notice even his health is not well and if I am doing massaging my feet or any part of my body he comes to me and tells me why don't you tell me. I will do to you. Yes it is hard to do unconditional love, but when you get reward without asking it feel like you have everything.
Jagdish Dave
7/10/2020 12:22:03 pm
I am glad to see your reflections. It is a learning expereince. We keep on walking on the right path.
Urvi
7/10/2020 02:11:46 pm
Uncle, t his is so true and so relevant in the husband-wife relationship. I am walking on this path.
Maria
7/10/2020 08:19:03 pm
Thank you for this reflection. Unconditional love has not been easy for me. Half a century of living on this earth and I still haven't fully accomplished this skillful way of living. You are so lucky to have received it all your life from your parents. I continue to work on my mindfulness practice so that I can display unconditional love to all my family. I didn't have that as a child and I struggled to give it to my children. It is very painful when children don't feel unconditionally loved by their parents. I will keep working on it everyday. I have gotten better at being gentle with myself and I hope to be less judgmental of my loved ones soon. Haha Leave a Reply. |
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