The False Self From Childhood

Below is my reflection to  Eric Jones' inspiring article:

A long time ago I had read that childhood is the fatherhood of a human being. How I am raised as a 2 to 3 year old child lays the foundation of my adulthood. Seeds of "true self" or authentic self are planted in early childhood. Our "true self" is naturally developed by the unconditional love and positive regard by our parents or care takers. If as children we were raised by adults who were raised in authoritarian ways our adult self will be shaped by such experiences. I was raised by parents who were neither authoritarian or "do as you please"- laissez faire ways. They would let me follow my needs, wishes and passion if that way of behaving did not hurt me and hurt others. This way of being raised by my parents created wholesome balance in my life. There are many examples of narcisstic, self-centered and autocratic leaders in the world we live in. It is very important for us as parents to raise our children in loving, caring and authentic ways. This is a challenging task for us as parents or care takers of our children. Family dynamics is very crucial for the welfare of not only families but for the world at large..

Namaste!